Here are some extremely important manners that seemed to have been forgotten in this day and age. Please take not of them and heed them to the best of your ability, hopefully your friends will take notice and follow in your lead.
1. Say "please" without fail. Please, always say "please" when you make a request, no matter how trivial or important. Always ask and don't tell or demand.
2. Say "Thank you" without fail. Upon being granted your request--be it a personal favor or impersonal transaction--always look the other party in the eye, give them a pleasing smile, and cheerily say, "Thank you". To show them you're really grateful, dress it up with "Thank you kindly," "Thanks a whole lot," "Preciate it". If your request is denied, say "Well, thank you anyway." Using your best turn-the-other-cheek manner. Yes, even if your selling Girl Scout cookies.
3. Say "ma'am" and "sir" without fail. If any adult your senior addresses you (or vice versa), automatically attach the appropriate title to your response ("Yes ma'am, "I reckon so, Sir", "Pardon me ma'am"). Neglecting this rule is likely to be interpreted as arrogance or insolence or just plain bad upbringing.
4. Treat all ladies as ladies, no matter what you have heard and continue to do so until she proves to you that she is not a lady.
5. Think before speaking. As it is always said "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."
6. Hold the door for anyone following you, if it is a man you can hand the door off to the man before heading inside before him. If it is an elder step aside and hold the door for them.
7. Never use the phone while on the toilet. Just don't. ( I've seen it happen, it's horrible)
8. Ask for clarification properly , as in "Can you repeat that, please?"
9. If you are visiting a friend's parents' home, offer the parents help with anything needed there, such as taking out trash or preparing the table for dinner. Don't forget to thank them for their hospitality and opening up their home, as well as allowing you to eat with them. Then they will be sure to have more respect for you when you return.
10. Send handwritten thank-you notes for gifts sent your way. It is much more appreciated than a text.
As for men and boys, why must we suffer with the degrading actions of many of the male gender these days?
Should we have to deal with seeing shirts like this at school as I did today? No! There is a difference between having to deal with male chauvinists and dealing with men who wear the pants in the relationship.
Men should treat their women as the ladies as if they are actually ladies! Not as if they are just toys,servants, or just something to screw and toss aside. Using chivalry is not a bad thing. It should be practiced on every girl, not telling her that your better than her simply because your a guy.
Ladies, would you rather have a man respect you and open a door for you, or open the door yourself and be shoved aside by some guy who not only doesn't have any common courtesy but doesn't have the manners to at least wait or maybe even hold the door for you like a proper gentlemen would? I personally would much rather the second.
Chivalry includes:
1. Opening and or holding the door for a lady
2. Stand when a lady enters or exits a room
3. Help a lady into her coat, especially if they are in a relationship.
4. Letting a lady precede him through a door that he is holding, with the exception of revolving doors.
5. Order for a lady in a restaurant (but only after asking her what she wants before the
waiter comes)
6. When a lady is taking a seat at a table the man must pull out her chair for her and push it back under before she sits down so she is properly seated.
7. Giving us his seat if there are no seat left and there is a lady who is standing. Especially if
she is expecting or in heels.
8. When getting into a car together opening the lady's door and closing it for her then getting in the other side. Works the same way when you get out of the car. Opening and
shutting the lady's door for her.
9. When walking on a sidewalk the man must walk on the side closest to the street.
10. If the man asks then the man pays. The exception is if the girl asks to go Dutch (meaning you both pay for yourselves) LADIES: this is still not extremely ladylike but possible to do if you feel uncomfortable letting him pay. If you explain your reasons to the man I'm sure he will understand.
Ladies I know that at first it feels very strange to let men and your boyfriends do this for you and it feels like they're saying you can't take care of yourself but after a while you realize that that's not the case and it's actually out of respect for you that they do these things. You can still be a powerful woman and let a man practice chivalry. Please, insist on it. Teach your cousins, your brothers, you friends, and your future children the importance of respecting women and that it is never okay to hit a woman or treat her without respect.
More manners will be posted in the future, until then use your best judgement and your manners! Bright Blessings!
Hailey
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